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My father was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer within 6 months of us getting married after being together for about 5 years. I was the primary caregiver and still attempting to maintain a full time job in my 20’s. Within the first 2 months of major brain surgery and daily radiation treatments at a hospital 2 hours away, my ex told me that should couldn’t handle this anymore and I had to choose her or my dad.  Buy it:  Happy Central Perk We Were On A Break Miss Chanandler Bong Ugly Christmas Shirt

Over the next 6 months, he changed drastically and the mental abuse kept ramping up until one day he locked me out of the house because of some stupid thing I didn't do. A light flickered on at that moment that I didn't deserve this. The next day when he was at work I showed up with a moving truck, found a way inside, and took all of my things and left. Had him served the next morning. Buy it:  Official Among Us Squad Goals Christmas Shirt L201124014 570.899,95 ₫ 519.000,00 ₫

My husband went missing, was found in a crack den. I was out of state at the moment so I went back home immediately. When I got home all the lights were off, it was eerily quiet, and there were hunting knifes open and laying everywhere. The counter, table, side tables, the ground, and they were surrounding him in bed, he was passed out. I left ASAP and went to a friends house, he broke into their house at 6 am and beat the shit out of one of the people that lived there, and then me, held me up in the wall by my throat and said he was going to murder me. This was about 5 months into married life. I moved out the day of, and moved back to my family’s house out of state in a couple months. Buy it:  Nice Donald Trump You Know Whose Fault It Christmas Shirt

We did a courthouse wedding type thing and then had a huge party the next evening. He got wasted, as the majority of people did that night. I was sober by the time we got back home and he wanted sex but was too drunk to really do anything. I said no. He held me down and tried to do it anyway. It was a pathetic mess and I realized I didn't have to struggle since he ended up just humping my leg. That night I had a suspicion this wasn't going to last. Buy it:  Cute Santa’s Crew Among Us Christmas Shirt

We did not know each other. I was coming off of a bad relationship that had followed a stale marriage. She was lost between wanting to be her own person and the stifling love of a rich man. I found her, she found me. It was like oil and water. We fucked around for a few days and one morning I say let's get married. She says your nuts. I closed my robe and said why people get married all the time? I say I been in two relationships where I spent the time to get and know someone before I committed. So how about I just commit upfront? Buy it: Top Skeleton I Might Not Be The Best Looking Or The Smartest Or The Strongest Shirt

My brother, whom I've previously mentioned is a well known NFL kicker, got married to a woman he was convinced was the love of his life. Literally everyone told him "this girl is a gold digger. she's trying to ride the pro sports train to divorce and take half your shit town". I told him a hundred times that he was a pro athlete now and he'd be swimming in as much tail as he could handle, all he had to do was NOT get married. He said, no he wasn't that kind of guy. Buy it:  Hot Tatís Navidad San Diego Shirt

While it's technically been a year and two months today. She is moving out on the 15th. I suppose it started when she hit me across the face with a beer bottle about a month before we got married. A month after she started talking to her ex. I believed her justification. In January I spent four days in jail after I defended myself from her and I was charged with 2 counts aggravated assault and attempted first degree murder. I took a plea deal and was convicted of simple assault and am on state probation until February. I tried everything to make it work but she has been mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive and I've had several black eyes over this year. My final straw was an argument over absolutely nothing and she packed a bag and said she was leaving, left and came home an hour later apologizing. I had none of it because this was the fifth time in three months she had done that. Buy it:  Nice Y’all Sorry About Mitch Mcconnell Love Kentucky Shirt

I sit here now on my 32nd birthday, after yet another morning of hostility, and yet another morning of bashing my head with my fists, just wishing I were dead. My life was good before I met her and I let her abuse me emotionally until I became this husk of a person (which she now holds against me of course) Buy it:  Premium Kraken Released Shirt

I’ve come to the realization now that we just need to divorce. She will never be caring or nice toward me again. I feel like a stranger in my own home. She’s threatened to take my son away from me and uses my past struggles against me A saying it would be so easy for her to get full custody. Buy it:  Good Manny Christmas San Diego Shirt

I began to see how my self-destruction was ruining my life. I stopped drinking shortly after that. I moved back in - she decided to try to forgive. Our child was born and I was very happy. But soon I felt even more depressed because of her cold attitude toward me. We were in counseling but nothing worked. Eventually I fell back into trying to meet women online just trying to feel loved and wanted again. I know this was wrong and I don’t have any excuse for doing it. She caught me again and now is just borderline hostile to me every single day. The tiniest annoyances cause her to explode and yell and ask why I’m so stupid I can’t do X right etc. Buy it:  Pretty Merry Sus-mas Among Us Christmas Shirt

Eventually this house of cards came crashing down when she discovered me passed out drunk one night and went through my phone (something she did often) and discovered my attempts at affairs. She kicked me out. I went to my mother’s house and drank even more. I ended up getting roughed up and arrested one night while walking home drunk because I didn’t want to stop and talk to the cops. My thumb was dislocated so badly that I needed surgery to correct it. Buy it:  Funny Merry Trumpmas Christmas Shirt

No such luck as she became pregnant shortly after. Now I was trapped. I knew for years this wasn’t right for me but couldn’t bring myself to end it. Now I was screwed. I went off the deep end into alcoholism. I would drink in secret at home, hiding vodka around the interior and exterior, I’d go to work, but a six pack of IPAs and drink those in secret at work. I tried searching for women to have an affair with because I felt so unfulfilled. I began self-harming by hitting myself in the head whenever she’d get mad which was often. She would get really angry about that because she was convinced I was doing it to make her feel guilty for yelling at me or calling me stupid. When in reality I did it because I hated myself so much and wanted to die. I’d fantasize about jumping in front of trains. Buy it:  Official Among Us Shirt

I started drinking heavily and smoking a lot of weed to cope. Calling my insurers advice nurse obsessively. I felt so unfulfilled and sad all the time. She demanded I get therapy and get meds. I did so. Eventually the serious anxiety subsided and I was able to function again. The ultimatums kept happening, now to include the fact that she wanted a baby and I was so desperate not to be alone that I bought a ring. I eventually proposed and thought it would buy me some time to get my life on track. Buy it:  Happy No New Normal Shirt

We eventually left DC and moved to the SF Bay Area where I am originally from. She began agitating that I propose to her, but I didn’t want to spend money on a ring yet because I was pretty heavily in credit card debt at the time (still in debt but not nearly as bad). Then the ultimatums started. Propose to me by x date or I’m leaving you. My identity was completely entwined with her at this point because I hated myself. I stressed and stressed about this until I finally broke and started having anxiety attacks and delusions - most notably a delusion that I had to constantly check my shoes and skin for signs of needle punctures to make sure I didn’t contract HIV. Buy it:  Great Ant Man Minnesota Basketball Shirt

I began to fear making her annoyed or angry, as it would happen often, Eventually, I stopped playing video games altogether, stopped going out after work with coworkers, began to lose the desire to do anything but the normal routine of come home -> drink heavily -> watch tv. My friends all noticed the changes in me and were quite alarmed, and even though I knew I was unhappy and that this wasn’t right, I had pretty low self esteem and ended up staying with her. Buy it:  Perfect Grosse Pointe Antifa Shirt

We’d have frequent arguments because I wouldn’t do things the way she wanted them done - I put away silverware wrong, I was too forgetful, I never did anything sweet for her, I put things back in the wrong place. Etc etc. I got even more depressed - and developed a learned helplessness. My self esteem and self worth were shot because I felt I never did anything right. Buy it:  Cute Dear Lord What A Sad Little Christmas Shirt

When she wanted me to move in, I was extremely hesitant and I told her straight up that I didn’t want to because I am the type of person who needs space sometimes and I loved playing video games to unwind after a long day. I told her that I knew if I moved in that she would slowly try to stop me from this (as in her eyes, video games are stupid.) Eventually I caved and moved in with her. And wouldn’t you know it, what I feared came to pass. I was playing Borderlands 2 with some friends from work when she came home once, and she demanded that I turn it off. My friends at the time were like dude wtf she’s really controlling. Buy it:  Top I Never Dreamed Son In Law Of Freaking Awesome Mother In Law Shirt

But at some point, the guilt trips started. She wanted me to work day shifts at the restaurant instead of night because she thought we didn’t spend enough time together during the week - this of course halved my income almost immediately. On the nights I did work, she told me not to go out for drinks with coworkers afterward to unwind - if you’ve ever been a server you know how needed those times are sometimes - her reasoning being that she had to get up early so when I’d come sleep over it would bother her. Buy it:  Beautiful Al Horford Appreciator Est 2001 Shirt

My cousin was married about 7 days. Her and her ex had been together for 9 years and had a 7 year old. He was the one who proposed and wanted to get married, she was fine with how the relationship was. A week after the wedding he just said, "I don't want to be married" and walked out. Turns out, he had been cheating for a while and already got the mistress pregnant. He went though with the wedding because he wanted the party. A $30K party, that my grandfather paid for. Buy it:  Nice All I Want For Christmas Is Looking For An Impostor Shirt

We eventually were able to become friends again and enjoy talking to each other and supporting each other as we each navigated our new lives. We had been friends for 10 years before we started dating, and then were together 4 years before we got married. It was so good to have my old friend back. he stopped with the "spice" fairly soon after all that, and was back to his old self. Buy it:  Awesome Among Us Christmas House Shirt

On wedding day, up in front of everyone, I felt like an actress playing a part. i knew right then there was likely going to be a divorce. A few months in, as things spiraled out of control resulting in his losing his job, stealing money from me etc, i kicked him out of the house. he left without fanfare but then started breaking in while I was at work. Things got really ugly. Deciding to file was the hardest, most heart-wrenching moment in my life. it tore me apart in ways I didn't know could exist...  Buy it:  Premium Among Us Meey Sus-Mas Christmas Shirt

Just a couple months in.. But to be fair, leading up to our actual wedding day we had a couple rough months. he was smoking "spice" which for him was really bad. His behavior was erratic and when he wasn't close to manic, he was withdrawn and secluding himself away from our family. i tried to get his brothers and parents to see what was going on, and help me help him, but they just couldn't see what i was seeing. When I addressed the issue with him, he laughed at me.  Buy it:  Original Among Us Merry Sus Mas Christmas

The final blow came on their 6-month wedding anniversary. He walked into the kitchen after work while she was cooking dinner, bleary-eyed from lack of sleep and having had a few cocktails after work, and placed a bag on the table. My cousin assumed it was an anniversary gift for her (because he was always so sweet and sentimental like that), and while her husband was in the restroom, discovered some baby bottles and a teething ring inside as well as a beautiful gold necklace with the name "Carol" on the attached gift tag. She also found a card in his handwriting declaring his love for Carol and their child. It seemed that heBuy it: r husband had confused which house he was entering and accidentally revealed that he was living a double life. Buy it:   Cute Reindeer Dispatcher Medical Assistant Crew Christmas Shirt

Also interesting to note that "Carol" had no idea my cousin was married to the father of her child, but it all came to light when Carol's best friend "Susan" heard about the impending divorce from my cousin's boss, who also happened to be Carol's neighbor and they all put the pieces of the puzzle together. They all lived in a big city and miles apart from each other, but it's still a small world. (And yes, Carol dumped him and took him to court for child support. ) Buy it:  Funny I Fucking Love My Asshole Husband Shirt

My cousin turned the stove off, grabbed her keys, got into her car and drove away. She was probably 5 miles away by the time her husband finished using the restroom, and had crossed state lines (back to her parents' home) before he figured out she had left him for good. No confrontation, no discussion, no accusals, no packing, no explanation, no goodbye note, no pleading, no argument, no tears ... just POOF! -- GONE! She filed divorce papers the next day. Buy it:  Official Nervous I’m Very Nervous I’m Scared Shirt

After having a couple of giant red flags waved in her face, she began to watch and observe him a bit more carefully. He would leave the house wearing different items of clothing than when he left; sometimes something as subtle as a different pair of socks. He would say he was going on an all-day hiking trip to take photos, but would return late without taking a single picture. (His excuse? He forgot to put batteries in the camera.) His paychecks were half-spent and he had no explanation of where or why his money disappeared so quickly, claiming he should probably try to cut back on going out to lunch with his coworkers, too much Starbucks, buying new camera accessories on Craigslist, etc. Buy it:  Nice Golden Girls Blanche Ho Ho Ho Christmas Shirt

She scoured the store in an attempt to find him, but no dice, he was gone. She got home and waited for his return, and sure enough he came home in sweaty gym clothes. Upon questioning him about why he was in a grocery store shopping with another woman (and buying diapers), he emphatically denied it, insisting that she had simply seen his Doppleganger. He scoffed at the idea that he would possibly be with another woman, ruffled her hair and teased her about needing glasses. Afterwards she said she felt rather foolish and a bit embarrassed. My cousin was convinced she was just "seeing things" and the incident was quickly forgotten. Buy it:  Top Trump Pence 2020 Keeping America Great Shirt

We started fighting. Although he said he was okay with me not wanting kids, he was pissed that I didn’t change my mind. He was upset that I took birth control, he was upset that I wasn’t a traditional wife, was upset that I didn’t cook him dinner and wanted to spend time away from him, was suspicious because I kept a diary, all this stuff just started coming out. I found out that he spent some time in jail for assaulting a woman he was dating years before we were together. I started to learn how crazy his temper was. Buy it:  Awesome Sheldon Cooper 73 Shirt

I knew before we got married. We had only been together for a few months. I was dealing with the death of a beloved family member. I wasn’t thinking clearly and thought, “Well, I’m in my 30s. This is what I’m supposed to do.” There were other reasons behind why I decided to marry without knowing him longer, and they involved feeling like I had to help him. Big mistake. Buy it:  Happy Santa Claus Leonardo Big Fat Jumper Quarantined Christmas 2020 Pandemic Meme Ugly Christmas Shirt

When he started drinking again after telling me he had been sober for 18 years. The whole time we dated, about a year, he constantly said how he’d never drink again. Within a week of getting married he bought a bottle of crown and began drinking from morning till evening. He was an asshole when he drank. Told me I was lucky to find someone who would marry me since I had two kids of mixed race. I hated him for that comment but at least he showed what was really in his heart. I was so happy the day he left. Buy it:  Good Santa’s Favorite Optometrist Christmas Shirt

 Long story short, his girlfriend made him confess to me. I was devastated, however I took her back eventually and now 12 years later we are divorcing. She IMMEDIATELY started trying to date a friend of mine and she’s been a train wreck for the last 9 months. So yeah, trust your instincts kids! A drunken one night stand would have hurt but it was something I could have overcame. I never got over this. Buy it:  Official Teekool Kevin Home Alone Christmas Shirt

Not me but a good friend of mine was in a terrible relationship for the past 10 years. It was very clear that they were only together because both were too scared to be single after being together for so long... So why not get married?? After a decade of dating they got divorced after a month of being husband and wife. None of us friends wanted to be the ones to say 'i told you so' but when he called me to let me know (I was one of his Best Men) literally the first thing he said was 'you get to say "I told you so" for the rest of my life but that's better than being with her.' Buy it:  Nice Xmas Strong Cool Santa Claus Merry Christmas With Background Tree Shirt

About a year into my marriage I found out that for about three years prior to getting married, my wife had been banging her “guy friend.” I thought he was my friend too. He was always at our house, watched our kid etc. Stopped seeing him so much when he got a girlfriend. My wife used me for comfort for “losing her friend.” Stupid me just figured his girlfriend couldn’t handle him having a female friend and I’m totally cool with opposite sex plutonic relationships. Buy it:  Premium Have A Kick You In The Crotch Spit On Your Neck Fantastic Holiday Ugly Christmas Shirt

My brother is going through something right now with his wife. I believe they only knew each other for about 3 weeks before getting married. Typical military marriage however about a month ago she blocked him from all social media and phone. He ends up emailing her chain of command to try and find out what's going on and she emails him back saying this is my coming out speech, I want a divorce. I feel bad for him but at the same time let him know how stupid the entire marriage was. He wanted a divorce so it seems like everyone wins lol Buy it:  Premium 400 Years Is Enough Shirt

When I couldn't write my vows. I knew when I couldn't come up with anything, it wasn't right. I was 22 and he was in his 30s. I got married anyway. Before our one year anniversary I developed severe panic attacks and an extreme mood disorder. I did some really shitty things and then just left. The thing is, he was a wonderful dude. Literally one of the best people I've ever met. He was an incredibly good influence on my life. But I didn't love him. I didn't even try to stick it out. I felt guilty about it for years, dealt with depression and suicidal ideation. I lost my entire support network of friends and family (rightfully so). I basically just ran away. After hard work, therapy, and developing good habits, I got better. Found the love of my life and have been with him for 7 years now. I don't regret my decision to leave, but I regret my decision to get married. I was a dumb selfish person but I've made it past the worst parts of myself. Buy it:  Awes

I freaked out because he forced this upon me and then just left me, I called and text him. And within 15 minutes he blocked me on all social media and his phone and I never heard from him directly again after this day. I was upset for a while about this until I realized they were a crazy family. I would like to add he was 30 years old. His dad ran a small Spanish church in Philadelphia. And he worked at WAWA. And he did not become the next Joel Osteen Dodged a bullet. Buy it:  Hot Drink More Because 2021 Will Be Worse Shirt

And he said GOD told his father we made a mistake. So I said, let me talk to your parents and we can drive home together. We then drove home and stayed married 48 hours before his family sat at their dining room table yelling at us and telling him that he could be the next Joel Osteen if he didn’t stay married to me. That GOD said this and that. He agreed to the divorce in hopes that he would be this person they claimed he would be without me and then he had me find my own way home. I was an hour away from home.  Buy it:  Official Among Us You’re Kinda Sus Christmas Shirt

This was the worst. I knew it was over before it began. I didn’t want to get married but he was extremely pushy about it. And we went to a place to get it done the same day. So after much convincing that this was best for GOD and his family, I agreed. (I know this was crazy/bad idea) Then within 4 hours of getting married he tried to leave me at a hotel because his parents found out we got married. And they were not happy like He thought they would be. He told me to rest and He went down stairs and called his family who demanded to pick him up. When I went down stairs after my nap he was waiting for them.  Buy it:  Top Snowman Nose Thief Ugly Christmas Shirt

Late to the party, but oh well. Not me but an acquaintance of mine. She married her long time boyfriend, they go on their honeymoon etc. Some of her close relatives were in their flat, cleaning the place til they got back home. When they were making the bed, they found paper after paper under the matress. Turns out he never paid their bills like he said, he just stuffed them under the matress so she wouldn't find them. Placed them both in debt. Buy it:  Happy Golden Retriever Charlie’s Mom Christmas Shirt

I really do apologize for not answering the question (I'm not even in a relationship), but I find it really cool how this sort of "Question" platform allows people who've been hurt to bond together. Feels like they can see that they aren't alone in their pain, since others have gone through similar issues. It's just really cool to see people support others so genuinely. Buy it:  Beautiful Christmas Is Better With Son Shirt

Now I'm with a wonderful woman. We've been dating for a year this month. We have the cutest dog, a wonderful apartment in a nice area, and it stays clean. We take care of each other. We take care of our things. We have careers we are getting into. We enjoy life, and will likely never have to worry about things again. That woman is the best thing that's ever happened to me, and I owe it all to my ex-wife teaching me exactly what I never wanted in a woman. Now I have the opposite. Someone beautiful, smart, driven, and motivated in every aspect of her life. I can't say enough good things about her because she makes me so stupidly happy. I wish it could have always been this way. Buy it:  Perfect Hallo Merry Christmas Hallo Ich Bin Der Nikolaus Shirt

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